be there for yourself

I used to be a chronic people pleaser - constantly weighing other peoples opinions more than my own and feeling guilty the second I tried to set a boundary. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But one thing I’ve learned the hard way is that happiness is an inside job, and it looks different for everyone. You can’t build a life that feels good by living for someone elses approval.

If you move through life comparing your path to everyone elses, second guessing every decision, and outsourcing your confidence, you’ll always feel lost. Because the truth is: nobody knows you the way you know you. Nobody feels what you feel, lives inside your mind, or carries your history. And honestly, the older I get the more I realize most people are just doing their best with the information they have. No one has it completely figured out. So stay in your lane. Focus on your own growth. Build your life like it belongs to you - because it does. Your power is yours, and the moment you stop giving it away everything changes.

Focusing on yourself also means raising the standard for who gets access to you. Would your higher self settle for attention that feels good in the moment but leaves you feeling unseen long term? Probably not. And sometimes isolation is a blessing, not a punishment. It’s a reset. It gives you space to hear your own thoughts again, to reconnect with who you are and what you actually want. And once you know what you want, it becomes your responsibility to meet yourself there. Take the steps you’ve been avoiding. Choose the life you keep daydreaming about. Stop living passively and start moving with intention. When you learn how to fill your own cup you stop chasing people who drain you - and you start attracting people who match you.

And remember: everyone is on a different timeline. Nothing blooms year round. You never know what someone is carrying behind the scenes, so comparing yourself to a curated versions of other peoples lives will only distort your reality. If you notice yourself keeping people around for low energy reasons (loneliness, convenience, fear of being alone) let that be your sign to choose better for yourself. Pay attention to what your relationships bring out in you. The right people don’t confuse your nervous system. They calm it.

And if you ever catch yourself feeling jealous, don’t shame yourself for it - get curious. Jealousy is usually your subconscious pointing at something you want but don’t believe you can have. It’s information. It’s a mirror. You can either stay stuck in comparison, or you can use it as proof of what you’re ready to grow into. Turn envy into inspiration. Let it fuel you. That shift alone can change your entire life.

Let your soul taste the magic of your own love. The kind you used to hand out to everyone else first.